As an infidelity specialist for 33 years, therapist Linda J. MacDonald has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after an affair. offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance. She wrote this as an easy-to-read manual for the previously unfaithful who suddenly want to save their marriages in the worst way. - How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs - Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery - 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal - Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers" - Ways to undo the damage from your lies - The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours) - The difference between helpful and harmful apologies - How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity BACK OF THE BOOK: Most unfaithful partners underestimate the breadth and depth of the fallout after infidelity. If you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading this book! Or, if you are the injured spouse and your unfaithful partner keeps hurting you with his/her attempts to help you feel better in all the wrong ways, put this manual into your spouse's hands right away... provides a practical road map for unfaithful spouses who wish to have another chance with their partners. Easy to read, even for the self-help book phobic!