When I was a young adult experiencing the trials and tribulations of dating, my wise grandmother Mrs. Violetter VanHoose would use jokes and sayings as her way of helping me navigate life challenges. As I got older and I started to appreciate and understand what she was trying to tell me, I decided to honor her by using her sayings to help others so the quote "If I Can't Be The Cake, I Won't Be The Crumz" is a domestic violence risk reduction healthy relationship concept that was derived from her wisdom, my life journey as a single mother waiting for Mr. Right while meeting Mr. Wrong, and my Psychology degree with a focus on Christian Counseling from Liberty University in 2016. The Cake Chronicles 80/20 Relationship Challenge encourages women to identify what they need to be happy or their 80% and what they are willing to compromise or their 20%. I use cake as a sweet metaphor to help people identify the tools and ingredients they need for a healthy, loving, long lasting relationship.