An unapologetic guide for readers who are Black, masc, and bi—unlearning biphobia, coming out, combatting erasure, and embodying your whole self
Through cutting social analysis, personal stories, and need-to-know advice,
Dear Bi Men
reclaims bi+ visibility in a culture of erasure—and unapologetically centers Blackness in a practical and deeply researched guide to navigating life, work, and relationships as a Black bi+ man.
Popular representation of bi and pansexual men is growing, but we’re not there yet: It’s mostly white. It collapses bisexual identity into tired, hypersexualized tropes. And it fails to interrogate the deeply entrenched stereotypes that insist:
You’re confused. You just don’t know you’re gay. You’re greedy. You must be great in bed.
Author, peer counselor, and creator of #bisexualmenspeak J.R. Yussuf pushes back against these stigmas and misconceptions, exploring how white supremacy reinforces biphobia and dictates what society thinks it means to “be a man.” He contextualizes discourse around queerness and bisexuality within a larger framework that honors readers’ intersecting identities. And he offers deeply practical advice, sharing how to:
Unlearn internalized biphobia and homophobia
Navigate an increasingly hostile digital landscape
Think about coming out: who to tell, why to tell them, and how to do it
Fight back against erasure and stigma
Navigate sex, dating, partnerships, marriage, friendship, and work
Understand your bi+ sexuality through a political lens
Process Black bi+ representation
Rich with personal narratives, insightful analysis, and practical advice, this book is a powerful resource for Black bi+ men to reclaim their identity, counter biphobia, and get empowered—and an offering to all readers looking to fight back against the erasure and dehumanization wrought by patriarchy.