The is a practical and deeply researched guide to understanding the psychological and emotional dynamics that lead us away from constructive disagreement and into binary moral judgments of heroes and villains—and to the steps we must take if we are to transcend groupthink and transform our relationships. In this companion to Brit Barron’s you will learn to recognize behavioral patterns online and in yourself that cause social justice efforts to become toxic. You’ll practice new emotional and thought habits that will help you to be responsive instead of reactive. Through insightful and provocative writing prompts, you’ll discover how to • identify cognitive splitting • notice when group belonging competes with individual values • make sense of “internet brain” • navigate the difference between consequences and punishment For anyone who wants to move beyond the conflict between moral conviction and close relationships with people whose views are problematic, the is an essential guide for the concrete actions we can take toward transformative justice in our everyday lives.