The nature of love is addressed in this book, along with practical observations for recognizing interactions which are simulating love without actually being love. Love is defined as love for self which grows to encompass more people if the environment if favorable. Very practical insights regarding finding a romantic partner are presented along with various styles of dating. More specifically, various dating environments are discussed from bars which serve alcohol and have more men than women, to dance communities where little alcohol is consumed and women outnumber men. The last main chapter is a demonstration of contemplation of a favorite poem from my viewpoint. Personal experiences are presented at points where I feel a demonstrating example will be helpful for the reader. Throughout all chapters of the book I make the recommendation for change away from the pyramid hierarchy structure toward a more horizontal equality structure to help men and women everywhere recover a feeling and presence of love in their lives which suffers from competition, rigid vertical structuring, and the appearance game.