? And if - for whatever reason - it doesn't work out, it's them who suffer the loss. Men just stand on the sidelines letting it all happen. Hang on! Not quite true. . and if that doesn't happen, The unexpected loss experienced by men who do not become fathers remains largely unacknowledged by society. In this ground-breaking and no-holds-barred exploration, the journalist Robert Nurden goes on unravelling the complexities of life as a childless-not-by-choice man. Robert's story is accompanied by a series of remarkable testimonies from other childless men who add their powerful voices to his, creating a sense of belonging and community. . With this invaluable book, Robert ultimately uncovers the hope that is discovered in acceptance, and the realisation that a rich and fulfilling life can still lie in wait.